Self love... easy to pronounce but hard to do, especially for me.
At first, I don't even know what self love is, what's the meaning of that? what's the purpose if I already had self love in my self? and etc.
Every humans in these whole world was born with the imperfections and of course I am. The facts is that we must to accept it and not everyone can do it easily. Living in Indonesia where the majority of people itself still think that being beautiful means you must have a slim body, white skin, sharp nose, straight hair, etc etc etc. Because of that, there is so many bullying cases that frequently happens. It's so sad but that's how it is. ☺
And yes... I'm one of many people out there who gets bullied. As what I've said before, I was born with the imperfections. I have thick lips, I don't have a sharp nose, my teeth's a bit irregular, and etc. Which it doesn't match with the beauty standards in here. I'm not gonna denial, it really hurts my heart when they say something bad with my imperfections. The pathetic things is, I can't even do anything besides just smiling or laughing with them about what they've said. At that time, all I do is blaming myself for not being 'perfect'.
Growing, growing, and growing until now I'm on my 19th years old. I became realize how important self love is. Self love means you can accept all the imperfections that you have either its about your physically things or even non physical things. I felt sorry for old me, yet I'm still immature at that time and being stupid for always thinking that I must have those 'stupid' beauty standards in me, just to please everyone's pov about myself. Although sometimes the insecurities still bothering and I'm still struggling to boost up the confidence in myself. But the good thing now is I know how to handle it whenever those comes to myself.
Here's the things that I always do and remember whenever I feel insecure, and hopefully it will also helps you.
❥ First thing first, and I think this is the most important things to remember not only for me but also for all of you. Think that God is never fail to create us and the fact that God's already loved us first than anyone else, even He loved us unconditionally. We all beautiful in God's eyes. Also God doesn't look at our physical appearance but He looks at our hearts.
1 John 4:19 "We love because He first loved us."
1 Samuel 16:7 "But the Lord said to Samuel, "Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him." The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart."
❥ Think that we don't need to please everyone. When someone do something bad for us either its an acts or words just pretend that they don't know how to be nice with us. (Always try to focus on feeling positive)
❥ Sometimes it's totally fine for being insecure, but make that insecure feelings for us to try to be a better version of us.
❥ Sharing with the closest person you have.
❥ Listen into the songs that has a good lyrics about self love to comfort you and boost up your mood also your confidence in yourself. For me I always listen to my spotify playlist which I've specially made to comfort me whenever I feel down. If you wanna listen into it, here's the link to my spotify playlist https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6Ct3AW7wNTAPqeWCzzlf1V?si=d14ade984a3b4824 ☺
I hope this blogs can be useful and helpful for those people that still struggling with the self love issues. I believe you can handle it! Remember that we always worthy in God's eyes. We all are ENOUGH and LOVED <3
Confidence is not "they will like us" but "We'll be fine if they don't like us."
God bless us.❤
At first, I don't even know what self love is, what's the meaning of that? what's the purpose if I already had self love in my self? and etc.
Every humans in these whole world was born with the imperfections and of course I am. The facts is that we must to accept it and not everyone can do it easily. Living in Indonesia where the majority of people itself still think that being beautiful means you must have a slim body, white skin, sharp nose, straight hair, etc etc etc. Because of that, there is so many bullying cases that frequently happens. It's so sad but that's how it is. ☺
And yes... I'm one of many people out there who gets bullied. As what I've said before, I was born with the imperfections. I have thick lips, I don't have a sharp nose, my teeth's a bit irregular, and etc. Which it doesn't match with the beauty standards in here. I'm not gonna denial, it really hurts my heart when they say something bad with my imperfections. The pathetic things is, I can't even do anything besides just smiling or laughing with them about what they've said. At that time, all I do is blaming myself for not being 'perfect'.
Growing, growing, and growing until now I'm on my 19th years old. I became realize how important self love is. Self love means you can accept all the imperfections that you have either its about your physically things or even non physical things. I felt sorry for old me, yet I'm still immature at that time and being stupid for always thinking that I must have those 'stupid' beauty standards in me, just to please everyone's pov about myself. Although sometimes the insecurities still bothering and I'm still struggling to boost up the confidence in myself. But the good thing now is I know how to handle it whenever those comes to myself.
Here's the things that I always do and remember whenever I feel insecure, and hopefully it will also helps you.
❥ First thing first, and I think this is the most important things to remember not only for me but also for all of you. Think that God is never fail to create us and the fact that God's already loved us first than anyone else, even He loved us unconditionally. We all beautiful in God's eyes. Also God doesn't look at our physical appearance but He looks at our hearts.
1 John 4:19 "We love because He first loved us."
1 Samuel 16:7 "But the Lord said to Samuel, "Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him." The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart."
❥ Think that we don't need to please everyone. When someone do something bad for us either its an acts or words just pretend that they don't know how to be nice with us. (Always try to focus on feeling positive)
❥ Sometimes it's totally fine for being insecure, but make that insecure feelings for us to try to be a better version of us.
❥ Sharing with the closest person you have.
❥ Listen into the songs that has a good lyrics about self love to comfort you and boost up your mood also your confidence in yourself. For me I always listen to my spotify playlist which I've specially made to comfort me whenever I feel down. If you wanna listen into it, here's the link to my spotify playlist https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6Ct3AW7wNTAPqeWCzzlf1V?si=d14ade984a3b4824 ☺
I hope this blogs can be useful and helpful for those people that still struggling with the self love issues. I believe you can handle it! Remember that we always worthy in God's eyes. We all are ENOUGH and LOVED <3
Confidence is not "they will like us" but "We'll be fine if they don't like us."
God bless us.❤
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